Thanks. I started to detach about a month ago and she accused me of having an affair, asking where I was going, etc... today, she got mad at me today because she said hello and I did not respond.
She seems pretty certain she wants D but I am going to let her make the first move with regards to orders (we already filed in july). I also see M as a commitment until death do us part. She has some stalling techniques, especially with finding a job, but I can't help but feel being used for finances and a nice home. I have grown a tremendous amount in the past 4 months and find myself caring less and less about the situation. Sometimes I think the only way she will see the light is if we get D and her world crashes around her.
