My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 5

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Figured I'd get in on the holiday misery.

W and I argued last night about her SIL. W was treating me like cap and saying selfish things at dinner, so I looked at our car app. Imagine that, she went to OM (parents) 's house the Tuesday night. I was worried she did that on Saturday too bc she left the lake house early when her mom didn't she and it was just guys there. She did visit OM on Saturday.

Well W didn't sleep in the MBR last night, oh well. W brought up legal separation last night. I said do what you want. W tells me today she's not going to my dad's today and I shouldn't go to her parents Friday either. I should have said OK and walked away but I talked. What a dummy I am.

I spoke with my in laws today, send all 2 x 4 my way. I was able to understand a couple of things that have been troubling my W:
1. When I told my W her parents are in denial of what W is doing.
2. W took my "2 wrongs don't make a right" statement the wrong way, as if I were attacking her. Given my behavioral
history, this makes sense.
3. Maybe I could have talked to my SIL

So I spent too much time there. Major backslide, in some ways it was good to hear what the in laws said. We'll see if W moves out or what happens. She's a WW so probably nothing will change. I told in laws W has flip flopped 5 times now on me, going back to the OM with a lie or by saying nothing. They don't like that, but up until today they didn't know that W left again after our Florida trip around labor day. The in laws mostly blame me for everything. I say this so that others can learn from my mistakes and leave the in laws be.

I saw a great post on IG today that said life isn't always ice cream and orgasms but you are in charge of your attitude and mindset. Attitude is contagious and mindset is everything. Choose happiness. Choose positivity. This is where I am going, just not sure when the next orgasm will be haha.