In her mind, the marriage has been over for a long time. Her journey started approximately 18-24 months before she dropped the bomb on you. She's light years ahead of you in detaching and moving on w/her life. Yes, she made some gestures of wanting to be there for you...but she went right back into the tunnel.
I am sure that if she were not in crisis she would frown upon a married woman flaunting her "new man" out in public before the ink was dry on the divorce paperwork. However, she's not that woman now. In fact she's about 16. You can't put your finger on what she will or will not do at any time. Emotions are fully charged during the crisis.
Keep the focus on you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
