Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage pt2

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Something I want to add. The last three years I made a HUGE effort to address issues with me that contributed to the unhappiness in our marriage. During that time my relationships with my kids and at work flourished. I got a promotion at work. My kids trust me more than ever before.

In that time frame I tries to be the best husband I could be. I was an [censored] 3+ years ago. Not a crazy [censored], but I wouldn't listen to understand. I went through a lot of counseling etc to get myself to be the husband that listens and talks and understands.

I had already started to be a much better person. The wife started with WAW 1.5 years ago. In a limited capacity and it then grew to the WW with an EA and then recently the PA. I feel, that since the wife started to checkout about 1.5 years ago, she didn't notice the changes I made. Everyone else but her noticed.

The biggest issue I have to focus on is doing a 180. I used to constantly ask her what I could be doing g differently, where my wife went etc. That lead to begging and pleading when I saw the writing on the wall.

Now I dont do that at all. The second issue was GAL. I should have been doing this a while now. Unfortunately i just didnt know until my WW moved upstairs on September 24th. That's when i found DB.

Over the last 3 years i have listened to understand, validated her feelings etc. So doing that is not new to me. It just didnt work.

The way i post makes it seem that my stitch is brand new. The fact is that it's about 1.5 years old already.

The kids left with WW to go to her moms for Thanksgiving lunch. The kids did not want to go. But i helped WW wrangle them and get them into the car. Mother in law did. Ot invite me. Because i am the boogeyman.

Oh well. My kids wont let her talk smack about me. MIL is a horrible person. You could write a book on how not to be by watching her.

I will take kids to my dads at 4PM. They are happy to go with me there. WW is invited but she wont go.