Peace is correct...the more you talk to her about the OM and telling her not to meet him, the more she will do it, i.e., just like kids...the more you say no, the more they will test the boundaries. The less you say about him, the better.

The high they get from keeping secrets and the paranoia that we are tracking them is unbelievable. They all think that we have nothing better to do than keep tabs on their every move. Once the affair comes to light, it's not quite as much fun for them.

The best thing you can do is keep the info you get from your lawyer to yourself and do not share it w/your wife. Keep the focus on you and your children and leave her to her fantasy world.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.