DNJ and the others gave good advice, and I agree with your intention to protect the kids
I had to fight for mine during negotiations and D as I did not want my children then 5 and 11 subject to OW
Once I figured out they were both using alcohol and prescription drugs, I fought harder I had an excellent attorney and my kids were my top priority
MY XH finally gave up and I think many MLCers do put up an initial fight then give up when the going gets too tough they only want to pursue their Fantasy relationship and new life and they get worse after the initial phase of replay.. from my experience they go further down some continue to reach for their bottom years later or some never-
MY XH also lied about his A-constantly he lied- denying any OW
I did not track him until later. I finally found a few things leading to her name and finding out about her-a real loser as well
Interesting the only concern she seems to have is being tracked-and meeting up with the loser they enjoy the secrecy of the new forbidden love--it must be a real high for them Once out in the open it isn't as exciting telling her NOT to meet him or talking about his characteristics as a loser-might make her want to meet him more
sorry for your pain -but you are doing well hang in
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
