Had S for from Monday evening to Wednesday afternoon. Kept a busy schedule and wrapped up yesterday by going to the new Creed movie (we both wanted to start training afterwards!! Excellent movie btw)
W tried calling me a couple of times during this time..I didn’t answer and she didn’t leave a message. Yesterday morning she called right at 7:30 and I ended up answering. W hemmed and hawed about her day, my plans with S, then took off topic and started an outburst going into concerns she has, how my “pride and ego” are now my biggest flaws, how she doesn’t think it’s fair I have S half the time, etc. I immediately cut W off, saying I wouldn’t stand her talking to me that way especially with S in background. Then said if she would like to discuss her concerns at a later time when S wouldn’t be around, then we could talk, but my expectations would be it had to be in a civil manner.
During phone call I did offer to bring S to her place after movie, which was a huge favor for her so she wouldn’t have to come across town during rush hour...as we would already be out and about. When S and I arrived at W place, she acted as if she if she never had outburst earlier and said how appreciative she was that I brought S to her. W then offered to let me spend some time tomorrow during Thanksgiving with S. This took me by surprise...but do feel gesture was made knowing that I had made Thanksgiving plans elsewhere. I’m considering modifying my plans and taking her up and pick S up for a bit. Either way...there seems to be a “thawing” from both W and I in conducting ourselves with regard to Co parenting....so I’ll take that for what it’s worth. We both aren’t trying to make things more difficult then they need to be...and it will be vital for S going forward regardless of MR.
Today...of all days going to really hone in my gratitudes and give thanks. It’s been a $h#t year....but I sure have come a long way.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
