I can see your points TF, I can. However, I’m not ready to entertain that idea yet. My kids were at my H’s for four days and both came home telling me it was too long, they were homesick and they missed me terribly. They love their home and they love their rooms. They also live in a safe neighbourhood with friends around. At my H’s, they have to share a room and the neighbourhood is questionable. He also has this strange arrangements with “roommates” - at least he says that is how he thinks of them. I have also been the one constant in their lives and they are used to not seeing their dad as much. They love him and they like spending time with him but it is not the same. I am home to them. My H had every opportunity to be there for them and he CHOSE not to be - for years! Maybe over time, I will reconsider but not now.
