[burned]

I really, really, really would like to know what I did that makes her resent me so much and basically gives her the unwavering belief that it's unforgivable in her eyes! I know I'll never get that answer but I am very confused and really curious how she thinks she can justify it. NOTHING I've done in this M is bad enough to justify a D. What she has certainly does, but the only thing she can accuse me of is probably not being the best at communicating and probably "shut down" when my NGS covert contracts aren't met. FFS, that happens in almost every M! And it's something that can be fixed. AND it takes 2 to communicate effectively. She isn't the greatest communicator either.

We all wish we knew the answer to that. The simplest answer, to me, is that we've all done plenty of little things wrong, but the WW did something WORSE and KNOWS it and doesn't feel strong enough to admit it, so she shifts the blame. And what better way to shift the blame than to pick one of the many things that USED to bother her but she overlooked it because she was in love with YOU and not HIM. Something like that.

As for the second part, I'm right there with you. But this kind of logic doesn't apply right now. During piecing, definitely. But that's after R. Right now it can't be fixed, except by us, alone. Later, maybe there's an opportunity to work on communication. But that won't be until she feels that attraction and wants to get cozy with your privates. Until OM gets hit by a bus, it isn't too likely. Any bus drivers around? I can give you the address.