Reading other threads is a bit disheartening. It will likely be less than four months from DB to D for me. I see that it's extremely unlikely that WAS will second guess themselves in that short amount of time. Basically, I never had a chance.
Think of it this way. For me it is over a year since BD and 7 months since he MO. In that time there has been NO visible progress towards D or R. He is less angry than he use to be. I am no longer to blame for the utter cr@p heap that is his life. I have gone from "you are to blame for everything wrong in my life" to "I am going to be nice to you because I want us to keep you hanging - but nothing that might make you think I want to come back" to, more recently, his pre BD passive aggressive controlling behavior re-emerges.
So, four months from BD to D, dude, after over a year in limbo, I envy the finality of your sitch and the positive way you are looking to the next phase in your life. Oh, and she will second guess herself. One dark night when she is alone, and the freedom she so desperately sought and was willing to blow up her life for has lost its sparkle, she will second guess herself.
Not now though. There is far too much momentum. From the sounds of it, when that happens it might be too late for her.
