Whirlwind of Hurt 5

[Twofeet]

I have a questions and need advice. I just read some things from Steve's thread about the inlaws. Well I am pretty sure SIL has dropped me like a sack of sh!t. Oh well her loss. However, MIL and FIL still stand by the claim that they value the lives of the grandchildren over my W. To the point that they asked me to attempt to obtain full custody of the kids before W and I settled on 50/50. (This caused a bit of a rift between W and her parents). So FIL has invited me hunting, but I am keeping distance. I sit next to MIL in church, she helps me with the kids since W isn't church going anymore. MIL also has watched the kids at my house when my parents aren't available because they still work. MIL and I don't talk about sitch other than she will be there for me and the kids no matter what happens. Despite all this should I distance the in-laws further? W has indicated to me that other than the financial support they bring she is done with her parents on anything more than a superficial level. W appears to be ok with my relationship with MIL/FIL in that it benefits the children. Hell my folks and the in-laws still talk. They all say we don't care we are the grandparents and are bonded by the grandchildren. I know we are supposed to keep the roads smooth and not rally the troops. Any advice?