Oh Grace... I am so sorry for your loss. I am close to my MIL too. My H pretty much ignores her unless he wants something from her. She has been a huge support to me and my kids and I honestly don’t know what I would have done without her these past four years.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to know what to do. I would probably follow my heart. Maybe ask yourself what you MIL would want you to do and honour her in that way. I don’t think you should do everything for him but this is someone who you both love who has been a big part of your lives so you will probably want to support each other. It is a mutual loss irregardless of where your marriage is at.
