To summarize

Brain: burn her to the ground and inflict as much suffering as possible. What if we reconcile and this happens again in 3 months or 5 years? Move on and find someone who appreciates me for who I am. Is the relationship i want one where I'm lied to and have to hire PI to ensure what's happening? Do my children need an unstable figure who snaps at them every 30 minutes, and can't do 2nd grade homework without melting down? I have to get tested for STDs now due to this. That is unacceptable.

Heart: this is not the woman I fell in love with nor the woman I knew 2 years ago. She is in a crisis and is hurting badly. Her family is extremely concerned about her. I fear she may harm herself or the kids when she spirals downward. She is troubled. .