Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage pt2

[ovrrnbw]

Kids and I want WW to wake up.

Sounds like the troops are rallied. So what next, apply the pressure and make her do what you want?

You should probably ditch facebook. Get rid of yours. You'll spend your time more productively, stop stalking your W's page, and make her wonder what you're up to. Then because of facebook you asked your W a weird question and pissed her off. I can see how your "question" offended her.

MWD says to think about what you're going to say and ask yourself "Is what I'm about to say going to bring me closer or further apart from my spouse?". You need more of that.

I tried to stop her but she just tirades into how I need to leave

It didn't work. Quit trying to win the argument. Listen. Validate. Commit to your 180's.

I again told her that I will not discuss anything with her if she is blaming me for this situation. I again told her that I do not want divorce, and cannot stop her, but I will not help her destroy this family completely.

So you told her you won't discuss anything with her if X. X happens and you continue the discussion. Don't set boundaries you won't enforce. Go read the boundaries links.

I told WW that just because her family is quick to try and choose sides and manipulate the kids, my family can see past the situation, they still love her and that they are there to support us and even just her, should she need it.

So you attacked her by saying bad things about her family? Then you try to nice guy her back? Stop doing this.

You come off so passive aggressive, and you just dump gasoline on the fire. I sense a great deal of innuendo in your conversations with your W.