When we got there, I was socializing with the other adults and trying to ignore WW. I waited until she had sat down at the table, and then seated myself on the opposite side. She then proceeded to stand up, and move around the table to sit next to me... WTF. She tried to play "Family" for the entire time we were there, interacting in conversations and trying to include me like: "oh yea haha, we also did that one year... it was great. Remember, Hurt?" I ignored her mostly, and smiled and engaged in conversations with the others and played with the kids.
I'm not suggesting you embarrass the other guests, but have you considered just saying, "WTF do you think you're doing", just loud enough for her to hear? I mean, let her know you aren't playing along with her little games. This was all "show". That's all it was.
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So, WW is still deep with OM for sure. She is being used as a no strings attached booty call, and she thinks that he will come around and evolve the feelings she craves if she just plays along.
Yep, and you are being used, too. She benefits from both men.
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She has been acting extremely kind the past days, and maybe she is just happy that I "dumped her",
I don't think she feels the full effects of being "dumped" yet. She has to believe you have moved on. Some WW's are fine living under the same roof "as friends". Like I said, she is benefiting from the OM and from you. OM feeds her emotional needs, while you provide physical things and take care of the kids/house. I expect she will start temp checking you, so be prepared. The more you are out GAL, the more she's going to want to know what's going on...…..and she'll start with the questions. What she really wants to know if you are getting interested in some other woman. It's not her business, b/c she stepped outside of bonds of trust and commitment in your relationship. Those walls have been torn down, so if she starts being nosy about what, when, how, where, and who...…..just smile and wave bye...….and give her no solid answers.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
