I might have missed something in your thread, so forgive me if this is redundant. But can you explain why you say IC is "obviously not helping" WW? Were you referring to not helping your relationship, or not helping her as an individual?
IC is not helping WW. She was going prior to BD. I believe her IC just told her to do what makes her happy. But then I'm just assuming. In our one MC session right after BD the counselor advised WW that she had some serious personal issues she needed to work on based on how she gas lighted me and had an A.
How is IC telling her to do what makes her happy different than validating? If WW feels they need to do something, and IC says "take action!", will that not ultimately help WW see what is or is not important to her?
It's not different. That's why most IC are pointless in a situation that requires WW redirect their attention away from their selfish desires.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
