Would appear the games have really begun now. Seems the more healthy boundaries I set and the more I try to organize things in a civil manner the more bizarre W's actions become. After the talk we had on Saturday night about splitting time with the kids and getting a set schedule in place W no showed with the kids last night. W was with all three at D9's dance class after school, dance ends at 5:30 and they get home at 5:45. As per W's request we were all set to take the kids to the mall last night so they could put a Christmas list together that we could divide up for all of the relatives and hopefully avoid the massive duplication of gifts. 6:45 rolls around and there is no sign of W and the kids so I call, no answer. 7:00 W calls, says she went to check on her parents place and was hanging out for a bit, "sounds good I will see you back at home for kids bedtime" was my response. I went out and did some solo GAL, dinner and a drink by myself and then went for a brief walk on the beach. I came home at 8:05 expecting the kids to be getting ready for bed only to find an empty house. 8:15 my phone rings and it is W with the kids calling to say goodnight. I had a good conversation with all three kids about their days and said goodnight, went to the gym and got myself organized for the morning and then read for an hour.
Before bed I called W and asked what was going on and why she had chosen to take the kids to which she didn't have much of an answer other then I told her that she should stay at her parents. I validated her and agreed that I had in fact suggested that but once again stressed that she cannot just take the kids and not communicate her plans. I stressed that a set schedule regarding time with the kids that we both mutually agree on needs to be drawn up. W was very flustered so I just ended the conversation and left it at that.
When I went up to get ready for bed I noticed that all of W's toiletries were not in the bathroom, it is only my assumption but it would appear that she packed up some stuff and went to her parents place with the clear intention of not coming home. I suspect that the "we were just checking on the place and decided to stay" was an outright lie. Not that it really matters because either way she just took the kids and left with zero communication but I just don't get the need to lie about it.
