If you are not concrete on the D, take a bit more time. Things could change as they often do with MLC.

How is the D going through legally going to change the situation and what are your hopes in regard to it.

If you are using the finalizing to gain/maintain control it may not work the way you hope.

Patience is hard but necessary if deep in your heart you desire reconciliation with your W, not the MLC W but the one at the end of the crisis. Just make sure the D is what you truly want and recognize why you want it. If its for control or reaction to the situation then maybe think on it. If it is because there is nothing left in your heart and you could never forgive or see your family together after the crisis...then maybe think too. Just don't do it out of spite and control.

You are hurt, understood. It is brutal and surreal, understood.

She is trying to get the high from replay and its not there like it once was.

Patience is hard.. keep your expectations low. She will let you down they always do, but, unconditional love is a powerful thing.


Watching the sky for the space shuttle return...relief, lights at last
BD May/12 (37, H41- D18 D13 S11)
July 2012 ILYBNILY
reconcile oct/12 no AP
2nd BD Jan/18 start again Original AP