We have an MSA, not a court order. It's enforceable, but it was set with no restrictions on visitation. The plan was get the MSA signed, get the final decree, then go to court. She blames me for "backing her into a corner" because she set up mediation two days before the court date, and she "didn't agree, but signed anyway" because she felt like she "had no other option without an attorney".
So I guess I'm going to have to enforce that. But that means visitation will probably have to be at my place, and she can't keep from attacking me. If I'm in a good mood, she says mean things. If I'm a bit down, she tries to get me to accept blame for her actions. If I'm standing my ground (silent or not), she starts doing childish stuff like interrupting to stress me out and shut me down.
That's why I can't afford to play around with her. She's trying to make me feel like it's my fault so that I'll give up.
This is actually a narcissistic personality disorder tactic.
I'm tired of hurting and being the target of her abuse. It's only hurting S in the long run, and even if she's not doing it now, she will do it to him in the future. And that isn't something I can live with allowing.
