Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
In her mind, the only way to get you to back off a bit and give her space is to take off the ring and throw love notes in the trash. They do like to throw the word "divorce" around too. Hopefully things will change again before the divorce is final.
BTW, the holidays are rough on everyone, especially MLC crisis people. We see a lot of them announcing that they don't feel the same towards the LBS, runaways and those shouting they want divorces from November to March. Emotions tend to run very high for them during this time period.
For now, keep the focus on you and your family. Give your wife plenty of space and time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
