Still determined, not as scared

[AnotherStander]

Time for a new thread! This one is over 10 pages now.

My H seemed pretty dead set against finding another relationship. He is adamant that is not what he wants. But that is for now... I don't think it will last.

Well, you know I've been here for a while. Long enough to notice certain recurring patterns. Don't be surprised if you find out at some point that he already is dating, or will be soon. They like to put on a big pity party but it's all usually just for show.

In a sense, he has abandoned her as well. He knows she does not approve of what he has done so he avoids her.

WAS's need enablers. They will cut anyone out of their lives that doesn't enable their behavior, even if it's their own parents.

Returning is something they cannot consider because it took them so long to get up the courage to leave. I don't know this for sure, but it makes sense to me when I really think about it.

It's definitely true right after S, but with time, who knows. I remember one WAW that used to post here years ago saying she almost didn't recon because she didn't want to have to explain to everyone why she was getting back together with the man she had been trash-talking to everyone about. Her own stubborn pride almost stopped her from pursuing reconciliation, and not just that, but it was misplaced pride because what she was having to admit was that she had lied to all of them when she drug his name through the mud!!! So yeah, some people are too hard-headed to go back on their bad decisions. BUT, a lot of them do reverse course against all odds, so you never know.