So a question... last night I packed up all of my H's belongings that were in our MBRM closet. That was a BIG step for me as I had been kind of hanging on to the clothes as a possible sign he might return. I know now that I was only fooling myself. So...now I am wondering about my wedding ring. I know my H would like me to take it off. That he would see it as a sign that I am accepting of the situation and losing hope of reconciliation. I look at it now and feel like I am outwardly lying to people about my status...pretending something is one way when it is not. But I have not been able to bring myself to take it off. I am still married legally and in my heart. But does this make me look weak or desperate? Should I take it off?
Ironically, my H started out his speech last night with ..."DV6, you are always so strong and stoic..." - unlike my basket case of a husband. We started having the conversation in the kitchen but then he asked if we could go into the bedroom as he didn't want the kids to see him crying. Guilt...he's just a ball of guilt. I told him guilt is a feeling you get when you think you are doing something wrong. "Interesting" was his reply - like he had never thought of that before.
