What a truly wonderful reply thank you so much well to answer a couple of your questions we have been together 27 years married for 6 years have 3 grown up children and 7 grandchildren my age is 54 wife 47 I didn’t really know about mlc until she gave me the bomb drop and since then have spent every day trying to find more information on it I wished I had found your site earlier on but st least Im here now . I have been on hearts blessing so that has gave me a wealth of information and as they say you can never have to much information. They have told me she is in replay stage so at least I know where she is at .regarding house finances I’m paying all the bills in our house now ,she pays her rent where she is at the moment. The one thing I am struggling with every single day is with anxiety. I tried some anti depressants 3 different types to be exact but they all made me feel worse so stopped taking them . You are right about the affair side of things because I know that if she is or does havie an affair my heart will be broken more than it is now but I do know she’s been texting (a friend)as she says when I confronted her about it a while ago now and the daughter has asked her and she says there is no one else just want to be in my own but who knows .just the thought of her being intimate with someone else breaks me but I know there is absolutely nothing I can do about it I just hope and pray that she’s strong enough not to but who knows .i know from reading that mlc is triggered by an event and know that her mother passing on most proberly triggered it but thinking back over a couple over 2 or 3 years somethings that she said didn’t quite add up the daughter even said something about her a couple of years ago so maybe denial and anger could of started then I also know that she has many childhood issues as we have spoken about some of them in the past ,so I know that she must face these also plus she has suffered depression a few times over the years so I guess this makes her an ideal candidate for mlc. We are still in contact she comes to the house roughly once a week gets her post although half the time I do not know how to handle it .the spewing seems to have stopped awhile ago now ,for now ,as she hadn’t spewed for a while now but then again half the conversation is only small talk as I find I do not want to get to much into a conversation with her as I find I don’t know what to say to her I suppose I’m just treading carefully. It is so hard when your feelings are still intact but there’s aren’t I sometimes wish you could see the mlc like you can measles or something (wishful thinking on my part I think ) as you don’t really know what’s going through there mind at anytime and the worst thing is nobody else can see it although the kids know she’s not her normal self and I've told ld them about mlc so they do know. She has definitely distanced her self to a degree from the kids they even say mom never phones us or nothing any more so I told them how it works so at least they understand .so for now I’ve filled you in on my situation and just hope that with your help and guidance I can get to know how to get through this.i will post more about the last 7 months since bombstop as It comes back to me .
