As far as I can tell, it is enforceable. I know she wants to make me do mediation again and she wants to have her own attorney to try to change the agreement. She still claims she felt backed into a corner and signed it because she felt that she couldn't undo it.
I don't really know.
I found this comment from another person with ADHD that really fits our situation for the last few years (and addresses what W's complaint was):
“When I say, ‘I’m trying,’ I mean it. I’m not happy to be forgetful or impulsive or emotionally reactive. I’m doing everything in my power to control it. But I can’t always control it, so please, for the love of all that is good and holy, understand I am not doing any of it on purpose! All I want is to function well in the world, but it’s a struggle every day. It seems dismissive, but it’s so true: It’s not personal.”
When I read that, it was way too familiar. This is exactly what I did. Of course, that doesn't often show outwards signs of "working on it". That's a big part of the problem according to W, that she didn't see me actually do anything, and she would come home after I promised to help around the house and I hadn't done it (because it overwhelmed me and I would just shut down), and she was constantly disappointed in me. I can understand that. But it really feels like only part of the issue.
