He referred to himself as a broken man. Says he is not interested in dating other people but would be okay if I did (uh...no thanks). He sees me as a “friend” and gave me the whole ILYBNILWY speech... would like us to be friends..
This really resonated with me. My H has said both of these things….broken, beyond repair and he wouldn’t blame me if I dated. The dating comment is projection, I think. They want permission through our actions that it’s o.k. for them to do so. Still not sure if my H is doing so, even though he agreed he wouldn’t for these two months. I told him why would I date? I'm married. Besides, the last complication I need in this mess is to launch into another relationship. I am finding myself first, and I like it.
I do believe they are broken, but whether they have the strength to put themselves together and into a better place for themselves is what the question is. Sometimes finding the next relationship and all the euphoria it brings is easier. Quick fix for a time, but ultimately doesn’t heal the soul. I am assuming “the talk” is imminent for me, since as far as I know H only has a place rented until the end of this month, and we are supposed to reevaluate the situation. I’m anxious about it, for sure. Hugs.
