Dealing with a WW trying to save marriage

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WW just got curb stomped by reality. I really hope that she at least caught a glimpse of what she has done to this family.

ST, first very sorry you're going through this. It's especially difficult when the WAS tends to be violent. Second, no she's not getting a dose of reality. That's not how it works. She still thinks everything is your fault. You've got to completely remove yourself from the equation (go dark as possible, contact limited to kid exchanges and info), and for months and months, before reality will start setting in for her. Third, talk to your L about her behavior. He/ she may recommend that you start documenting all of this and maybe even recording it. Her behavior is not normal for a WAS, so please don't think this is just a phase to work through or something you have to live with. It is NOT. It sounds to me like abuse, and you do not want her abusing your kids under any circumstances. Talk to your L!

Oh I know this okay take a while and that there is a slim chance of hope.

D16 told me that in her IC session with WW, WW broke down crying and said she was "so sorry". D16 asked her for what and WW said "for everything ".

I know her mind isn't anywhere near where it needs to be for her to recognize how badly she messed up.

Unfortunately, WW and I are both off and home today. I'm getting out for some chores. WW cant even look at me and is acting super timid and meek.

I'm continuing NC unless something necessary comes up. I had to get something from her bathroom so I was polite and asked before I went into her room.