During the run and shower I missed a call from W. When I called her back she said she was so happy I called her back, she was getting D8 from a birthday party on my side of town and said the kids wanted to see me. She asked to come to my house for a visit, but said she guessed I had plans. I said yes I was just about to step out as I was very busy this evening. She sounded disappointed, but thanked me for calling her back. I said goodbye and got off the phone.
I would have texted "sorry I can't talk right now, is it emergency"?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
I quickly called W up to check D8 size for a winter coat. W was acting very timid on the phone it was weird.
Why are you calling about a size for a coat? Text "what size is D8'?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
I told SIL that bringing it over would be a good excuse for a visit someday. She then text that now is not a good time just give it to W. That seemed odd so I asked her is everything ok, she said yes so I told her I would give it to W.
IMO you need to distance yourself from her side of the family right now.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
Later W texted me in the evening. She wanted to know if I was ok, if I made it through the weekend alright. I really didn't feel like responding, but we have some kid logistics to figure out for the week and I don't feel like waiting last minute. So I text phone call? She says yes then calls me.
I hate that text! Like she's feeling sorry for you. Text "I'm great thanks for asking" Another call? Why?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
She says they are being rambunctious and have been stressing her out. I tell her they don't stress me out they are fun and exciting.
Validation, Validation, Validation you dismissed her feelings.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
We talk kids logistics, I mentioned SIL bible and the weird text convo. W says SIL is just processing her R with me and how its changing. I asked if W said something to SIL (probably shouldn't have said that) . W said no, but I just need to not let my feelings get hurt and accept that I am not going to be around for SIL. I tell W I understand all this and I have always been tough don't worry me.
Was this convo necessary?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
W says it's not like I would call your sister. ( Which is true because why would my sister want to talk to someone who wont work out their own personal problems, quit on a MR for selfish reasons, and break up a family.) I needed to 180 the direction of the convo so finished up logistics. These are call consequences.
[quote=Twofeet] Told W I never got to talk to D8, she said I can always call W phone. I reminded her I did Sat morning. Finished up the convo, W said it was good hearing from you. Then we said our goodbyes. She had the same what I would describe as timid tone from Sat.
You guys talk more than some married couples I know.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
What is reality and what is manipulation?
Can you expand more on what you mean by this question?
