Still determined, not as scared

[Davide]

DV,

I'm sorry to hear about this latest interaction. It always hurts to hear those words even if we have heard them before or are think we are prepared for them. However you seem to be handling it well. I think you can use this as an impetus to work even more on your attachment. Like others have said you really do just need to let him go, to drop that rope. I know that when my W told me she was dating OM (this was 4 months post BD) that pushed me to let go even more and turn all of my attention and emotional energy to myself. It s@cks but it is a necessary part of the process. Definitely try to limit your interactions as much as possible.

You are right about anger and resentment not being the answer. They are often a part of the process of letting go, but true detachment, loving detachment, is not about either of those. I have had a lot of resentful thoughts over the past few months and am hoping to move past them soon as they seem to hold me back. It's really easy to remain stuck in that phase of the grief process.

Hang in there. You can do this.