He was all emotional and basically told me that he wants me to give up on him. He wants me to love the kids, love myself but not love him. In other words, please give up all hope that we will get back together. Damn my expressive face. It was a very long conversation. Probably did not handle it the way I should have. I didn’t get super emotional but we did talk about a lot of things and I was honest with him without being desperate. He wants to be free of the guilt he feels when he looks at me, I guess. He referred to himself as a broken man. Says he is not interested in dating other people but would be okay if I did (uh...no thanks). He sees me as a “friend” and gave me the whole ILYBNILWY speech... would like us to be friends.
DV very sorry you are going through this mess, but honestly this latest is nothing to be concerned about at all. This happens so frequently with WAH's that it's almost cliche'. I am not sure why walkaway husbands in particular feel the need to constantly remind their LBW about just how "done" they are, but honestly I suspect a lot of it is because they are trying to convince themselves that they are done. And I think they are also fishing around to see if you are still Plan B (especially with that comment about you dating). I really do think the response he was hoping for is you begging and pleading him to give you another chance. I hope you didn't, it sounds like you didn't? But here's the bottom line- he needs to learn to miss you and he hasn't yet. Keep up your detachment!
