I am glad you moved back into your home. You have stated what is on your mind and now...you need to give her time to digest all that has happened over the last few days. Going dark/dim is for you and your peace of mind. It is not to control and/or manipulate her into rethinking her stance/behavior. She is emotionally stunted and she is seeking that time in her life where she ceased growing emotionally. She's not always thinking rationally and you can rationalize w/someone who is irrational.
Do not think for minute that she doesn't think about you and what you have shared w/her. At night, the wheels in her head continue to turn and that is when she has time to think about all that has happened. Don't be fooled that she is having the time of her life because she isn't. She is hurting deeply within her heart and soul. The scars run deep and you cannot see them...but they are there.
She will test your love and patience many times in the days ahead. She will thrive on attention, both positive and negative. The best thing to do is try not to react to what she says or her behavior. Try to stay calm and speak to her in a calm voice, i.e., just as you would to a skittish colt.
BTW, Bluesun has given you excellent advice, based on her crisis.
Try to keep the focus on you and dig deeper for patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
