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[Jlh]

I noticed this past week that my H hasn't been doing his nightly calls he makes to our son every night. No warning or anything, he just stopped calling. Now our son doesn't really ask to use the phone as he's still young.

Last night, my boy asked to see his dad so I called him so they could talk and later I asked him if he's not calling anymore at night. His reply was that he didn't want to bother our son. He says this is a "woe is me" kind of tone. He then says that when he's older maybe son will want to talk so he'll just let him call if he wants to talk to his dad. Our son is 6. He's not a phone person, and personally I think H should make the effort to call him. I don't keep him from talking to his dad and I can tell he notices that he hasn't gotten his nightly call from his dad.

When I told him this, H seemed to perk up almost like he wanted an ego boost. I'm just not sure how to go about this; should I let it go and not push it since H doesn't want to call so he doesn't "bother" as he claims? Because honestly, if he's waiting for us to call him so our kiddo can say goodnight it seems a little rough to do to a kid putting it on him to call his daddy instead of H making the effort.

Also, he has said this BS before about not wanting to "bother" our son. Is he honestly talking about our son, or does he mean me and our son. I know the books say to not question the spouse too much, but H's "woe is me, I'm lonely" thing is getting old. Its like he pulls away yet still wants to be a distant part of our lives without the effort right now. Lately for someone wanting to be so happy out of our house, he's been looking miserable.

I just dont want his depression or whatever he is going through to hurt our son.