Wife is not who I married ... Pt6 pls help!

[LoneWlf]

Glad to hear that your S is facing his future and you been there to support him. Be proud of S LW!

Thanks Neff- I am so incredibly proud of S!

That's great LW. Glad you are focused on what you are. Busy is sometimes good. God Bless.

RR- thanks again ! I'm doing this for S and I to have an awesome life no matter what!

Lonewlf, it's good to hear you've been busy and active. Congratulations on the job! I'm sure your wife has noticed that you're busy nowadays and realizes you're not sitting around waiting for her to return. There must be wheels turning in her head but it's good you're cooperating with her while not letting her slow you down.

Nic- always good to hear from you. W may notice my lack of time but she has not said or shown any interest in R . I'm not so sure what I want also.

Just want to share with you guys I had an awesome day with my S yesterday. First of all my dog is doing much better on meds to help him overcome the burns and infection so we were able to leave him for a few hours while we went to visit the university. On the way there S and I talked about his keen interest in computers. Different aspects of computers he liked. He then said he wants to specialize in computer security. In other words ethical hacking. He said a guy did a presentation at his school about a job where a company hires you to find ways to hack their site. This way the company then will use this to expose possible entry points and make necessary changes. S said that this guy gets paid big money to do this - sorta like a game. We had a hour and a half drive so we spoke a lot about my new job his school and computers. As we were going to this university my S says you know dad I'm not really interested in going to this school i just want to see what they have. I said - please go with an open mind- the worse that can happen is we walk away with a better understanding of what this school can offer. He said OK I'll do that.

First of all this is a newer uni and does not have the big name prestige of the others Universities S is thinking of applying to. It is also much smaller that the other schools. We get on campus only to be greeted by students. We head over to one building where we think cpu sci is . we find out after talking with students that it is cpu sci but a different field. Students were informative and helpful also pointing out being in smaller size classes being feeling more connected with professors and fellow students. they also point us to the bigger building across campus. We enter a newer building greeted by a lady in admissions telling us about requirements which my son at this point can easily make. She shows us the 4 year program and how it starts with networking then onto securities and possibly co op or internship. She the point us to the new hacking, networking and robotics labs. My S face lit up. we head up the elevators to be greeted by the professor who teaches cpu security course 3rd and 4th year. What an amazing conversation. he first started by asking what my S was interested in. Then he proceeded by explaining the different coursed he could take. He opened up how he really liked that fact how parents would take their kids here as an intro to university. Then he said that this could be the best 4 years of his life and that he was setting the foundation to what was to be the rest of his life and that foundation was only going to be as good as the effort he put forth. He advised my S to really be engaged to put all he had and to step up and connect with the professors. He mentioned that often times he would get calls from BIG corporations , government agencies , banks and other industries looking for upcoming talent. With a smile on his face he said often times kids have real secure jobs lined up before graduating. Then he mentioned several of his students did internships in silicone valley and also abroad in Japan & Malaysia learning and gaining valuable experience while getting paid. S says - hey I can do that! - I said better yet be NIKE- Just do it LOL!!! The prof ended by saying he often meets parents and new students with this puzzled look at first- but he finds it so rewarding when they meet again at graduation this time looking excited and satisfied. He later walked us into the Hacking lab and introduced to a 4th year student who told my S he was accepted to the large name University but choose this one because of greater opportunity. He said he has already been offered a job. He also mentioned class sizes here were like 200-300 as opposed to the larger school were people bring binoculars because there is over 2000 people there. My S checked out the labs - talked with more students some giving him some things he may want to start and research. We stayed for about 3-4 hours.

On the way home my S says I never really thought of going to this school but I'm glad we came here to see it today. he then says I'm gonna tell my buddies at school on Monday maybe one of them come here and we can be roommates. I said I was so proud of him that he was making his future a priority that I would do anything that I could to support and ensure that he is successful. He then said _ I'm gonna try and help out too because I'd like to get a summer job this year. I said you are becoming a very responsible young man - thank you for your efforts. We ended the drive with him asking me to listen to some music he made on his computer with a launch pad. I gotta say - It sounded really cool what he made. I also need to mention that - thru all the s#it that this guy has been thru to see him thrive and want bigger successes makes me happy and hopeful!!!

I just wanted to journal because today I consider this a BIG WIN!!!! Thank you all for your prayers!!!