I haven’t been myself the last two years. With my health issues I haven’t gotten to the gym in a couple of years. I need to go regardless of the pain.
Maybe book in a couple of personal training sessions to start ... they can be expensive but you only need a couple. This has a number of advantages, they will tell you what things you should be doing to meet your personal goals and how often, how to use the various pieces of equipment and not feel like a complete [censored] (if you're a complete newbie like me) and the very act of having someone waiting for you at a particular date and time means you are that little bit more motivated to go.
Originally Posted by FFHubby
Had an awesome time last night with a bunch of friends for a Friendsgiving. I was the 13th wheel essentially, but it was fine.
Brilliant. Do more of this. It doesn't matter if you're a third or thirteen wheel. As long as you have fun and it gets you out of your head.
Originally Posted by FFHubby
Part of me wants to reach out to her dad to confront him on his sins for meddling in our marriage and separating my wife from me.
do not do this ^^^^
Originally Posted by FFHubby
I also want to bring my wife’s sins to her current pastor. Not to get her back, as I don’t see this making a difference, but more so for my own conscious to say I tried everything. Part of me doesn’t even want to put in the work to lift a finger, as I know it won’t make a difference. Think after 10 months of hardly any communication and the fact that she is spreading lies about me I’m just emotionally drained and done.
or this ^^^
You are right, neither of this will make any difference. It will only alienate her more and it will not alleviate your conscience. Contacting her dad will only make you feel better - it will not make things better. Contacting your pastor make her feel like you are rallying the troops against her.
Originally Posted by FFHubby
I know life will go on, but the way this has happened leaves me feeling I can’t trust anyone. Assuming I don’t contact my wife is she doesn’t contact me still, right? If that’s the case, I don’t know if I will ever hear from her again.
Trust in any future relationship is going to be a hard. One of the reasons [I] find hard to trust people is there is a part of me that thinks I am not worth loving. This is my H's doing. I have spent the last however months trying to reprogramme myself from his brainwashing. I think it probably gets easier the more you GAL because GAL'g builds self worth.
Re that last bit - yes, I, and I suspect everyone who goes through the detachment process worries about this. Trust the process. We either get to the other side stronger without our other halves, or stronger with our R intact.
