Finding the Balance and then Tipping the Scale

[Adam04]

I hope you aren't serious! Demanding some of those chili fries is hardly a consequence for a grown woman throwing a fit.

Yes, I was kidding.

I have to add, when I was breaking all the rules in the first two months after BD, I was also standing up for myself. I hadn't realized this important piece until now, reflecting back.

When you talked about not allowing the WW to disrespect, I was thinking of verbal spats, but we had texted a lot and she would say something negative and because I was angry I wasn't going to shut up. She would try to say I was bad in doing this or that or say I wasn't a good father, I would say wait a damn minute, maybe you can say I didn't take out the trash as fast as you wanted, but I know I was a damn good father to the boys. She would later say yes I am sorry, you were/are. I was just angry and not thinking right. Can you forgive me or chalk this up to a bad day. Oh how I put ALL of that into one big mess of us "just arguing" and breaking rules but now I see why she hasn't really been that way verbally lately. I was waiting for this phase or thing to happen in regular conversation. We did go through that in texts. That's when we said to let it chill, the texting... because she would say something and then I would say something. I hope this helps

be the rock, detach, distance as much as possible, be respectful, do things for myself and for the kids, GAL... and expect nothing.