Uncertain phase of MLC

[bluesun]

[/quote]As for a job. She has always held prestigious jobs and community titles. She lost her identity through becoming a mother and feels employment would give her a chance to contribute financially. A month ago she wanted to go to school and I promised to support her in every way. She was excited about finally pursuing her dream career but now that has taken a back seat to employment, in case she needs to support herself.[quote]

The dream career may have taken a back seat to employment but, she may also be rethinking that dream career now that the commitment to pursue is there. Making decisions and commitments while in MLC is difficult because the brain is all over the place. She may also have some changes in her desire for that dream career now that time has passed. When did she chose this career?

She knows on some level that a divorce is not inevitable, so she knows she may not have to support herself entirely if you stay together. She could even be afraid of the leap into the dream in case it isn't all she actually thought it would be. Her fear of failure could be stunting her movement towards the schooling, she has been dealing with her appearance with nails/hair/shopping etc and the job search took a back seat to this. Is the shopping and salon a normal behaviour pre crisis?

So her dream career has taken a back seat to employment which has now taken a back seat to shopping/hair/nails etc. So she is stalling. Im hearing all these things are being processed; she is contemplating decisions on her work, her home, her family and on you. She will likely flop all over the place for a while as it goes undetected under the surface. I would just acknowledge her options when she presents them and support her choice at the time; eventually one of these things will dictate what she will chose with the others. And once she makes concrete positive choices and they come into fruition from her hand then her confidence should increase as should progress. Takes time...argh eh.