I'm not at a point where I need an accountant or attorney quite yet, but it is always there in the back of my mind. In my state there is no real "legal separation." Residing in different places (with at least one person not intending to stay married) is the basis, and a one year separation is required before filing for divorce. From what I understand if we both agree to say that we separated earlier the state doesn't really look into it, so it is possible that the process could get started before April. I could certainly wait until we start the D proceedings to split things up any further and clear up what is going to happen with the house. I suppose this is a mixture of impatience and sense of fairness. I would prefer to split things up with her without involving lawyers, and that would be my initial attempt, but I am also not going to allow myself to be taken advantage of in any way. I very much doubt that it would come to that.
On a GAL note, I got outdoors climbing again today with a friend. I had been battling a bad cold all week and it rained nearly non-stop from Monday through Thursday, so it was great to be out in the sun with the autumn foliage still near its colorful peak. It is really peaceful. However, a group bouldering near us had a close encounter with a rattlesnake - the fist time I've seen (and heard!) one up-close in the wild. I'm also going to go out this evening by myself to watch a professional basketball game as my favorite team is in town for one of only two visits all year. So that should be a fun change as well.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
