Hi Ovrrnbw, I'm glad to see there's progress with your wife! Even if she visited OM it sounds like the visits have become less. She probably has lingering feelings for him or maybe wants to stay friends with him but hopefully that'll fizzle out. If she decides to stay with you then we can assume at some point OM himself will want to move on. My experience when my husband came back the first time was that he didn't want to talk about his affair at all. He wanted to come back easily and I think he wanted to put everything behind him and move on but it's not easy for those of us who have been betrayed to just forget. At first it's amazing when our spouses come back home and seem like they're ending their affair but over time we realize how much has changed in terms of the trust and respect we have for our spouse. It sounds like you're taking the right steps and you're making conditions favorable for your wife to return which is what we all want. It's worth just checking in with yourself each time she visits OM or does something suspicious to determine where you'll draw the line.
