The ass grabbing would bother me. If it happened again when the relationship is still in its cure to state, I would immediately end the hug and step back.
As for true reconciliation, I think the key thing is to look for changes in behavior. Not changes that take you back to what was, but changes that improve things that were not great in your marriage before. We communicate differently now. We're much better about handling disagreements and giving each other the benefit of the doubt, for example. In a good reconciliation, both spouses make changes, and they can each see the changes in the other.
I would also be wary about applying WW guidelines to a husband who wants out of the marriage but is not having an affair. I think those situations are different.
My two cents, for you to take or leave as you see fit.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
