I think its good for her to see the possibilities and you creating new life/friends--some female
I don't think many of us have taken that route, and most of us here also lost our spouses every MLCer is a bit different
I don't think any strategy can really bring them through the crises but you are taking care of yourself and seeing possible new directions for yourself-so I will be curious to see the outcome and how she handles it-
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