I'm reading the posts and a little surprised. The husband abandons the house and yet I read comments like you have to show appreciation for mowing the lawn? Is it a separation or not?
Having a husband who has abandoned the house not an indication of not wanting to be with you? The fact that he comes and goes as he pleases not be interpreted as his way of controlling the LBS as well as a way of easing his guilt by doing these tasks?
If my wife left the house I would not want her to come back and do the dishes every so often or the ironing etc. Separation is being independant. For her to come back and do anything within the boundaries of the home she first needs to work on our relationship. Me accepting that kind of behaviour is condoning her attitude as well as cake eat in a certain way.
Its like a perverted in house separation but where I lose complete control from the moment I allow my WAS back in whenever she feels like it.
