Grace, things happen. I am not so much judging your inaction as keeping perspective.

WASs will test to see where they stand. When we set boundaries and in fact pass these stupid tests we make progress. Not just personal progress but it is important to remind the WAS what they will be losing.

I agree with Davide, don't go in for the hug. If you want to allow him to that's fine, but no sexual grabbing or anything of that sort. It may or may not seem like progress in the MR. It is not. There is much to read about proper R in these threads. I would suggest you read and commit to whatever makes sense in your heart.

Last edited by RR17; 11/17/18 03:43 AM.
M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.