I think it is just a matter of establishing clear boundaries. You don't need to be hostile, but you could simply say "Please don't touch me like that." Let him know that you don't welcome that kind of attention from him anymore. I would also not go in for a hug with him, or let him give you a hug. It just seems like asking for trouble.d But that's just me.
I think what RR is saying is that you need to stand up to him, both in terms of coming in and out of the house and touching you as he pleases. That any possible reconciliation won't come until he respects you and realizes that he doesn't actually have control over you. Part of it is what you are thinking - are you taking these signs of affection as steps towards R (which you don't), but also what he is thinking.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
