The a$$ squeezing is temp -taking. He wants to know that he still has some power, some effect and could change direction and come home if he pleases. I wouldn't allow it. Make him realize that once gone, you will move on. really move on and not wait patiently in case he returns. Grace, the better you stick to DB principles the sooner this will end.
O.K. So, at the moment it happened, I chose to ignore it and let it pass. What SHOULD I have done in the perfect Dbing world?
Originally Posted by RR17
This is not progress in the M/R. It happened and it's over. Without proper reconciliation, you will most surely end up back here again.
I didn't see this event as having anything to do with M/R. It really didn't have any effect on me whatsoever. "Proper reconciliation" is the key. How does one know how to "Properly reconcile". I would imagine it would have to be under the guidance of a good MC. Well, that's something to mull over down the road IF it comes to that, I guess.
