Job, I do think he has gone through a withdrawal and a first awakening as HB described. I just don’t have much hope he’ll travel any more than that. There is so much dysfunction around everything he does, it is hard to think the human could actually emerge at any point.
Andrew, that one doesn’t quite work. No one was bothering him. He was facing no real deadlines, but when the subtle and sneaky prods weren’t working, he is the one who had his lawyer reach out to mine. I was calm and offered what I always do—a private, settled result that wouldn’t risk his job/career or embarrass our D who even at a young age has already become a public figure. Normally he ignores me or rages. This time was very, very different.
It is unfortunate that my S is struggling now and has resulted in additional contact, but his needs have to come first. I know H won’t help him, but he wants a dad so badly he just doesn’t see it.
It is likely just a cycle in or a touch and go, and I won’t be affected by it, but my son will. When he leaves again, it will bring forward more issues.
