Just to be clear, I was making tea and asked her if she wanted some - I didn't invite her out to have tea at some point in the future. It wasn't meant as pursuit, and there was no expectation on my part. She didn't want any and that was that. She texted me later about taking me up on the invitation at some later date. It wasn't in reaction to my invitation which she had already declined. Regardless, I don't particularly want to have tea with her, so I think it is best just not to answer. It wasn't a question anyway.
The last we talked about finances was in late May when we set up the current system in which we basically separated all expenses except the mortgage, which comes out of our joint account. It's not even that she is paying for the house right now, just that the payment is coming from the joint account.
Why change? Because it seems fair - 4 months in for her, 4 months in for me. Also because I'd rather not be sharing expenses with her at this point as I have become resigned to the inevitablility of D. When I agreed to (really made up) these terms I was still in the phase of hoping for R. I no longer see that as a realistic outcome of the situation. She hasn't complained or brought it up once, so it certainly isn't about appeasing her, just my own moral compass and desire for further separation.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
