Yes, I guess from reading the above it may sound a little weird.
D12 had an out of uniform day today. She brought ripped jeans to her dads but then remembered she can't wear ripped jeans to school. She would have got in trouble so I agreed to drop them off on the way to the station. He lives near the station. If it was out of my way I probably would have said no.
Today is a work day so he assumed I was passing by his and then heading straight to work. He was surprised at my attire. I told him I was going to work and that Friday's are casual. He has told his mum before that he thinks I play truant from work so I guess that is what he was getting at. Also, he has never liked me dressing 'provocatively' (note: this is all in his head) but I think this comes from him being jealous. He now can't say anything anymore so he makes passive aggressive comments - which I ignore. Is this not the right response? I am going with the 'what you say doesn't impact me' approach rather then rising to the bait. I suppose I could have said "none of your business" but that sounds a little extreme. But you are correct, he should no longer be asking me questions. But when he asks a direct question like "Are you going to work" it is difficult to say anything other than "Yes, I am going to work".
Also, he married someone who is relatively attractive - then gets upset when other men look at her. This is his problem ... which I owned before he left ... but now that he has MO, it is his problem and his problem alone. I will not change the way I dress to suit him anymore.
I decided to not go to work after all. I needed to come home to finish some stuff off and then decided I couldn't be bothered. I was surprised he was here so was thrown a little of kilter. One of the things I have to do is tell him he just can't turn up here anymore whenever he wants.
I am spending the night in the city as I am on a course in the morning and would have to get up at the crack of dawn if I stayed here. He knows (because I asked him to watch the children tonight) but he doesn't know why. He has not asked and it is probably driving him mad.
Right, I need to book a hotel and sort out my overnight bag.
