Still determined, not as scared

[ovrrnbw]

I also realized that I have been torturing myself with all of these made up ideas about how great his life is without me. Maybe it isn’t as great as I thought and maybe, just maybe, I should get back to DBing and GAL and stop making things up in my mind. I also realized tonight that my finding out that he had been talking about a D with my stepdaughter really set me back a lot more than I had realized. I need to get some perspective back. I think five days of pool will be an excellent start.

I like all of this.

But why would you give them gifts "together" if you aren't "together"? Why is he saying let's give them gifts from both of us? I think he is trying to run from reality here.

Your 180's are good. True listening is a typical, big 180 for most LBS's. My other 180 has been to get up and help when my W asks to do something.