If you so desire another woman, get a divorce. You are being emotional and childish by responding to an affair with an affair of your own. You need to calm down, get your mind and body right, and be who you really are. Don't let other people make you act like a turd.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.