The problematic issue if I want to stay is that the house has basically doubled in value in the 6 years we have had it (generally a good problem to have) so it would be difficult to buy her share out if I want to stay.
I have this problem too. Our house has gone up considerably since we moved in and there is no way I could keep it if I have to give him 50% of the equity in it. I have always paid the mortgage myself (he wasn't earning much so his contributions were limited to household bills) so I am also resentful that I will probably have to give him nearly half a mill when it gets sold. One of things I am considering is if we divorce, that we come to some arrangement whereby I do not have to pay him out until he wants to buy a place of his own, and in effect, 'lease' his half of the house off of him. I would continue to pay the mortgage but agree a level of interest that he earns on his half of the equity at time of divorce. I note that this may be an easier sell for me as we have children and he does not want to uproot them. Also, he has a fear that if we sell the house, then I may not be able to afford a place near by, he will not have such ready access to the children. If you are on good terms, and your home is in a neighborhood that will only go up in value, then this may be an option for you too.
You sound like you are in a good place to deal with the financial side of things now. I hope to get there one day.
PS - I like the shortening to Solo - makes me feel like Han Solo (by far the coolest star wars character).
