Again, two things. 1. My goal is R. I love this crazy woman. I’m told that taking my b@lls back makes that more likely. Or less unlikely? 2. Money is a problem as she has no income and I have been footing the bill for everything. When talking about D all she focuses on is money. She needs her half of the cash to survive, or at least she plays it off that way. 3. OK, three things. I have NO idea if she is still in an A. So I need to be careful that my actions are proactive, not punitive.
1. No dude. It could go either way. Taking your balls back will not necessarily bring her back, but it might ignite an ever so tiny spark (and then again it might not). IMO, this should happen.
2. Well of course she needs the money. And of course you are footing the bill. To put it bluntly, you are financing her affair. And I mean that quite literally.
3. It really does not matter if there is an active A going on or not. Not one bit. She is wayward, so either she is in an active A (physical of not) or she's thinking about one. The point I am trying to make, you are not even a blip on her radar. Not at all. Zilch. You will only appear on her radar, when you start making waves (by moving back in or cutting her off financially (consult a lawyer before doing that)). And this WILL piss her off. But that is good. You have to polarize her. Indifference is the death of all beautiful things. The opposite of love is not hate (as we have been taught from the earliest of ages), but indifference.
